In my effort to get the word out about grief and the turmoil it causes in one’s life, I have been fortunate to be asked  to speak at colleges, businesses, churches, and clubs. I also facilitate five groups a month, year round.   

There is a saying; you can’t escape death or taxes. Well, you can prepare for taxes but it seems that we are  rarely prepared for the death of a loved one.  The finality of death is what surprises me. I never knew what forever really meant until death touched my life so unexpectedly.  Forever is an awfully long, long time.

I decided to write this little book for those who are grieving or for those who know someone who is grieving. I wanted to keep it brief, because people who are grieving often cannot concentrate for any length of time.

The Reality of Loss was written from the heart, in plain language, easy to read and full of my loss experiences, as well as things I have learned from others. It is not a text book, or clinical—it is a real and honest accounting of my thoughts and feelings, as well as the process of grieving. Unfortunately, grief  is not always pretty. I will always miss the loved ones that have gone before me and I have great faith that I will see them again.



I have been a nurse since 1979. During my career, I have held several different positions which include: Staff Nurse, Director of Nursing, Staff Development and Education. One of my favorite jobs was as a nurse with Hospice. I was, and still am, surprised at the strength, love and resilience of families. In the year 2000, I accepted a position as a Grief Specialist at Forastiere Funeral Homes.